15 Signs He’s REALLY Into You

I don’t know about you guys, but I always seem to find myself sat amongst my friends discussing our relationships. The amount of times we’ve spent looking for signs and trying to carefully decipher mixed messages and decide whether or not there’s something there that wasn’t there before is unreal. So, ladies, let’s for once, just be honest with ourselves. Of course, we would like to think that we’re compatible with every man on the planet because, well, we’re all queens, but at the end of the day, we’re not.

Some men will be into you, and some men won’t. But that’s okay. I’m sure as hell you feel the same about guys. You usually know within the first 5 minutes or so of meeting someone whether you’re into them or not and it’s the same with the blokes. As much as we like to think there is – there are no grey areas – it’s actually pretty black and white.

The majority of the time, all we women want is to know whether or not the feeling is mutual when we’re dating. And when it comes to guys, there are definitely some tell-tale signs that he’s totally into you. Here’s what they are:

Ross and Rachel


Rather than getting the odd text message here and there, you’ll find yourself picking up the phone on countless occasions because he just wants to talk to you, ask you about your day or tell you about something funny that happened to him. An actual spoken conversation is definitely more significant than one that is riddled with blue ticks, don’t you think?

Boy Meets World


He won’t run, hide or shy away from labelling your relationship. And I don’t just mean by making things Facebook official. He’s so into you that he’ll probably be relieved, overwhelmed and pretty damn happy when you agree to be his significant other. Aww!

Do you wanna come with me?


This won’t happen all the time because let’s face it, you both need time apart. But if a time arose, he’d happily invite you out with the guys to the pub or whatever. He’s comfortable and happy enough with you to let you into the generally-forbidden-to-girlfriends territory. And that’s quite a big step if you ask me.

Harry Styles


If you’re on a weekend away, or even going to an interview, if he’s into you, he’ll want to check-in and see how you are. Why? Because he genuinely cares. How you feel is beginning to affect how he feels and he knows it. It might be a text or a phone call, but whatever it is, know that he cares. It’s kind of a big deal.

Do Your Thang


If a guy’s really got a thing for you, he’ll go out of his way to make you happy. And one of those ways will be to impress your friends. I don’t necessarily mean by showing off, I mean by being polite, friendly, funny, and generally just getting to know them. Sure, he might be out of his comfort zone, but understand that he’s making the effort … for you. And that’s sweet.

The Notebook



He might have the means to take you to luxury Michelin star restaurants on date night, or he may just take you to the burger place around the corner because he knows you love those gorgeous polenta fries they do. Either way, he’ll take you out and treat you because you are his Queen, and that’s that.

Pants Party


Perhaps it’s a family affair or a friend’s birthday, it could be anything really, but if he’s really into you, he’ll most certainly want you to be his plus one and walk through the door with you on his arm. This is a pretty good sign that he likes you a lot and is ready to go from being single to being a couple.

How You Doin'?


He’s not asking “How was your day?” just to be polite. He genuinely wants to know. If it was good, he wants to know why to join you in feeling pleased about it. And if it was bad, he wants to know why to see if there’s anything he can do to make you feel better. He’ll ask you questions not because he’s nosy, but because he cares. Aww.

The Time Travellers Wife


Whether it’s complimenting you on your appearance, talking about the future, or telling you how he feels, if a guy is truly into you, he’s a whole open book. It takes men A LOT to be emotionally ‘naked’ if you will. So appreciate that he’s chosen to be this way with you. It’s because he trusts you and really, REALLY likes you.

To Me, You Are Perfect


He’ll never be afraid to look and you and tell you you’re beautiful. I’m talking real, sincere compliments here, none of this “You’re fit as, I’d bang you” malarkey that seems to constitute as a compliment on Tinder, for instance. If he really likes you, he’ll go out of his way to compliment you with the reasons as to why.



As an almost significant other, he trusts your judgement. That could be about work, friendships, relationships, anything really. But if you’ve got something to say about it, he won’t simply discard your suggestion like a used tissue. He’ll take it on board and – in most cases – act on it. Because if you feel the same way he does, you’ve got his best interests at heart.

What do you think?


He’s buying clothes and he wants you to go with him, and everything he seems to take a shine to, he asks “Do you think this is nice?” or “What do you think?” At first, you think, why are you asking me? These will be your clothes! In reality, he’s asking your opinion because he actually values what you’ve got to say and what you think.

I got nothing but time


If a guy’s not into you, he’ll come up with excuses not to see you. He’ll always have something on the back burner and potentially cancel plans at the last minute. If a guy’s really into you, however, chances are he’ll act in the complete opposite fashion. He will ALWAYS make time for you, even if it’s hard to pencil in that time between work and other commitments. He’ll make it happen by hook or by crook.

Meeting the family


It’s always a big step in any relationship, but if he’s into you, he won’t think anything of it. Not in a bad way, of course, but he likes you so he’s already made peace with the fact that meeting your parents (and the rest of the rabble) would happen sooner or later, so he’ll make a real effort when it does. Why? because he wants to be a part of your life. What a guy!

Everyone has a destiny


As far as signs go, this is probably the most important of all. Because this particular conversation will generally be avoided by men who aren’t feeling a connection, that’s for sure. But believe it or not, most men wear their hearts on their sleeves, and if he’s smitten he’ll be more than happy to tell you that it’s you he wants for the foreseeable future. And if the feeling’s mutual, that’s pretty fantastic if you ask me.

15 Signs He's Really Into You

And there you have it – 15 signs he’s really into you.
Did I miss anything? Let me know in the comments below.

Louise x

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  1. Marianne
    July 4, 2020 / 10:59 pm

    Wow you covered quite a lot in this. Many of which I wish my young self knew. Pinning this for others to read, definately worth sharing. X

  2. Kristine Nicole Alessandra
    July 5, 2020 / 7:29 am

    These are things that really make you realize how sincere a guy is towards you. When I was a teenager, I got infatuation mistaken for true love. (first heartbreak). I guess growing up, being more mature has opened my mind and made me look at the “signs” better.

  3. Marta
    July 5, 2020 / 6:46 pm

    When someone cares about you he will make an effort for you. If he dosent do those things well honey he really is not that into you. Now we have to yell that so those in the back can hear it. Same goes for women.

  4. July 6, 2020 / 12:23 am

    So much this! I think often we can quickly jump into a relationship with someone just because only to find out they really were not that into you. These signs are facts! 8 years and counting with the one who did them all! Listen up ladies if he ain’t doing the stuff here ~ find you one who does!

  5. July 6, 2020 / 12:38 pm

    So wish I’d known all this in my younger years…it took me waaaaaay too long to wake up!

  6. July 6, 2020 / 2:36 pm

    I guess you covered all the signs. So, ladies and wives, may these help you and guide you for a more fruitful and lasting relationship.

  7. July 7, 2020 / 10:48 am

    I think meeting your family is the best indicator that a man is really seriously in love with a lady. Learned this from my mom.

  8. Elizabeth O
    July 8, 2020 / 10:31 am

    It does take two to make a relationship work so hopefully the signals are mutually appreciated.

  9. July 14, 2020 / 9:03 pm

    All definite signs he may have a thing for you! It can be so frustrating trying to decipher the signs.

  10. September 11, 2020 / 5:55 am

    Where was your blog when I was eternally single! This would certainly have been super helpful advice, it can be so hard to know how a person feels about you. Brilliant post

    I was nodding along reading this thinking back to when I met my Fiance x

  11. September 11, 2020 / 1:11 pm

    Some really interesting tips and totally agree with them all! Men are so daft, when all this is so much easier than they think or expect! Sim x

  12. September 11, 2020 / 4:31 pm

    Dating is such a strange world – I’ve been with my other half for over 10 years now so I can’t imagine what it is like to date again. These are some good tips to work out if he’s into you or not.

  13. September 11, 2020 / 9:03 pm

    Love these definite signs that he is into you! It can be so tough to read men sometimes so knowing what certain things mean can definitely help.

  14. Rhian westbury
    September 12, 2020 / 8:42 am

    This would have been so useful when I was single as I’d know that a lot of guys I dated just weren’t that into me. When I started dating my fiance it made me feel so secure as he contacted me straight away to arrange another date and he didn’t shy away from being honest about his feelings x

  15. September 12, 2020 / 10:42 am

    As a man, I would agree with all of this lol, also I understand every GIF that there was, even boy meets world…great post.

  16. September 12, 2020 / 1:06 pm

    Yep, you sure have covered them all for sure ( that I can think of anyway) I think its great advice for anyone 🙂 Wish I knew them when I was younger

  17. September 12, 2020 / 1:48 pm

    I am loving all these tips and totally agree, if he really likes you he will make time and effort the same for you too.

  18. September 12, 2020 / 3:59 pm

    My husband was talking about our future together just after 2 weeks of dating! We have now been together for over 17 years.

  19. September 12, 2020 / 8:50 pm

    Some fab tips here and I think taking you to meet his friends and having the courage to meet your family is a sure sign that he is ready for the next level

  20. Melanie williams
    September 12, 2020 / 9:19 pm

    Yes to all these points, I think it is so important for women to recognise these points especially if they are looking for a permanent partner xx

  21. Kristine Nicole Alessandra
    September 13, 2020 / 5:28 pm

    I have to share this post with my grown up nieces. My eldest niece has been in a relationship that sadly, ended after 6 years. She has a new boyfriend now and he seems like a really nice guy. This article will be a big help for my niece to find out is her current boyfriend is “marriage material.”

  22. September 14, 2020 / 1:16 pm

    Such a great post and I think these ‘signs’ are things you don’t notice until you’ve had a bad dating experience that has then been followed by a great one 🙂

  23. September 15, 2020 / 7:31 am

    Oh god I couldn’t imagine dating now ha! Been with Scott 12 years and wouldn’t know where to start when it comes to dating now

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