Before you send out that text, you know – the one you’ve already composed in your head for the ex you’ve been spending days thinking about during lockdown – I’d highly recommend you to keep that thought on hold for a sec and consider what I have to say. Breakups are tough. But what’s even tougher is the part that comes next – moving on.
Some of us take days, months, or (in some cases) years, to try and move past the heartbreak of no longer being with the guy or girl you thought was ‘the one.’ And while it takes all that time to get over your ex, all it takes for you to fall back right back in love with them, is perhaps, a two or three week period of isolation.
As we entered our 5th week of quarantine here in the UK, I suddenly found myself inundated with calls and texts from some of my friends who were facing the age-old dilemma of whether or not to drop their toxic exes some not-so-toxic messages. And I think I know exactly why! You see, with all that extra time on their hands, (and no doubt a lot of procrastinating), one thing that will have been happening to them all will have been a whole lot of overthinking. Because, well, why not?
As the mind races to keep up with where your heart is suddenly at, you’re bound to make some pretty questionable decisions that might just land you in more trouble than if you contracted the Coronavirus itself. Which is why, now and then, when you find yourself being hit by pangs of loneliness or feel drawn to take a walk down memory lane with your ex, you should remember there are five good reasons why you shouldn’t give in to the temptation of texting them.
So, why not make yourself comfortable and I’ll talk you through them one at a time. And hopefully stop you from making the biggest mistake of your life. Ready to go? Then let’s jump right in!
01. THERE’S A GOOD REASON YOU’RE NOT TOGETHER
I get it. When you’ve been single for a long time, and are on a dry spell, coupled with the fact that there has been zero physical interaction over the past few weeks due to the lockdown, you’re bound to latch on the first thought that comes to your mind, and that’s bound to be your ex. But, it’s in times like this that you mustn’t forget there was a reason you broke up with them in the first place. And unless they’ve miraculously changed overnight, chances are that reason is still valid, which means your reason to text them, isn’t!
02. IT MIGHT END UP IN A HOOKUP
Once a relationship is over, it’s very rare that both partners ever want to get back together, at least at the same time. More often than not, when it’s done, it’s done for good. This means that you texting your ex out of the blue would only loosely translate into none other than a booty call. So, in case you’re looking to rekindle those lost feelings, you might want to consider the possibility that they might not last for more than just one night.
03. IT’S ALMOST CERTAINLY OUT OF DESPERATION
As much as you’d like to believe otherwise, this sudden surge of emotions is just your mind and body acting out of desperation. And I know you’re rolling your eyes at me and think I don’t know what I’m talking about – but be honest with yourself – you know deep down that under different and more interactive every-day circumstances, they wouldn’t have crossed your mind for even a second. It’s only out of sheer boredom and loneliness in lockdown that you’re even considering opening this can of worms.
04. DON’T GIVE HIM THE SATISFACTION
If you think that breakups hurt a lot, you probably don’t know what it feels like to give the same guy who broke your heart, a reason to feel like he’s got one over on you. Sending out that text to your ex would be an admission of the fact that you were probably wrong to part ways in the first place. And that when times are tough, you need him back. You’re proving him right and giving him the satisfaction that he most likely doesn’t deserve. And that, my friend, is enough for you to reconsider pressing send!
05. YOU DESERVE BETTER
Yes you loved them, yes they gave you butterflies, and yes they made falling feel like flying. But they also broke your heart. And no, they do not deserve you back. In fact, they are the very reason why you deserve someone so much better in life. So what if you’re stuck home right now with no chance of finding Mr Right? When the time comes, and the lockdown has been lifted, the world will be your oyster and you wouldn’t have to go back to gumball jewellery when you’d have the chance to get your hands on a real gem!
And there you have it – 5 great reasons not to text your ex during lockdown. I hope it’s been helpful and you no longer feel the urge to send him a message. After all, you’re worth so much more.
Have you ever been tempted to text an ex when you’ve been feeling bored or lonely before?
Let me know in the comments below.