Everyone is a little possessive about their partner to some extent. And while it’s not a good idea to make the relationship all about being dependent on each other, there are some situations where the possessiveness is justified — especially when someone is flirting with your man! But, even then, you don’t have to go all ninja on whoever is trying to flirt with him. Here are 10 things you can do when someone flirts with your boyfriend:
01. IGNORE HER
It’s normal to be possessive about your guy, but don’t let the possessiveness blow out of proportion. If you feel someone is flirting with him, don’t assume the worst. It may just be that she’s naturally flirty and doesn’t even know she’s doing it. My advice? Try your best to ignore it and move on!
02. CHECK FOR ANY GREEN SIGNALS FROM HIS SIDE
Your boyfriend may or may not realise that he is actually giving her the ‘go’ signal. Observe his behaviour and how he responds to her flirting. Make sure he is not the one encouraging it before you think about confronting her about it.
03. LET HIM KNOW
If you are feeling at all threatened or insecure about the situation, or if you feel that he may unknowingly be giving her the green signal, talk to him about it. Let him know that you are not comfortable with how things are going and that his reactions may be the reason she’s making advances towards him. If he is serious about you and really loves you, he’ll make a conscious effort to avoid giving her any further encouragement.
04. TRY TO BEFRIEND HER … IT WILL MAKE FLIRTING HARDER
It is much easier to flirt with a random guy than it is to flirt with someone whose girlfriend you know. You don’t have to try to be best mates with her – just strike up a regular conversation and try and get to know her a little. It will make it awkward for her to flirt with your boyfriend if you guys are kind of friends (or at least little more than acquaintances). It also indicates that you’re confident and not at all insecure about the situation.
05. KEEP CALM & BE ASSERTIVE
Lashing out at her or having an argument about it isn’t going to help your case. Instead, take a deep breath and calm yourself. Your calm demeanour can be the most the assertive argument in this case. Little actions like holding his hand or standing close to him can assert the fact that he’s your man and you don’t appreciate her persistent flirting!
06. WATCH & WAIT
Before you go into panic mode — wait and watch. See if any of the things you’ve tried so far is working or if she backs off on her own. You only need to take things further if you feel that she isn’t picking up on your hints.
07. GET A LITTLE FLIRTY YOURSELF
If she doesn’t back off and you feel you need to even the playing field then try a little flirting yourself. Compliment your boyfriend in front of her and use your knowledge about his likes or dislikes to your advantage. You know him so much better than she does — she can’t possibly beat you at the flirting game!
08. USE HUMOUR TO MAKE YOUR POINT
Use subtle humour to convey that she may be crossing the line. Try not to be offensive or have your angry face on though. In a light-hearted manner say something like ‘Wow, I think I should probably take some flirting lessons from you’ and laugh it off.
09. INTERRUPT THE FLIRTING
If she is the stubborn kind and just won’t back down, then try this: Whenever she starts flirting with him, interrupt the conversation on the pretext of talking to him in private or having something really important to tell him. Make up some excuse to pull him away from the conversation. She will ultimately be forced to back off.
10. BE CONFIDENT. BE BADASS. BE YOU
You don’t have to be apologetic about who you are or the fact that you are trying to distance your guy from someone who won’t stop flirting with him. Remember that you are beautiful and that if he really loves you, there is no way some other girl is going to break the two of you up.