“Romance is overrated”, said absolutely no woman ever. I don’t care if you’re in the fresh puppy love stage of your relationship or have been married for ten years with 3 or 4 little ones running around the house, if there’s one thing I know about women — and I’m obviously an authority figure since I am one — it’s that we all love romance.
But here’s the thing. Romance isn’t just what you see in the movies. There’s no need to run through the airport. No need to find a little thing called a ‘boom box’ and stand outside her window. No need for an entire field of daffodils. All we want is to know we matter to you.
So stop putting so much pressure on yourselves — being romantic is a lot easier than you think. And little gestures go a long way. With that in mind, I thought I’d put together a list of 10 little gestures that women find romantic AF. I hope you enjoy having a read through them:
HOLDING HER HAND
What’s more romantic than publicly declaring that the human next to you is the person you’re dating? It’s a sweet way of showing her that you don’t care who knows you’re together and that you want to be close to her. Holding hands in public is an intimate way to still be touching your partner no matter where you are. And I promise she’ll be over the moon with it!
REMEMBERING HER FRIEND’S BIRTHDAYS
And anything else that’s important to her but obsolete for you. Remembering details of important events will catch your significant other by surprise. I’m sure she doesn’t expect you to know about her great aunt’s birthday. So when you mention it a week before, you’ll be scoring some major romance points.
PLANNING OUTINGS THAT INCLUDE HER FRIENDS
A woman wants to know that you accept all of her; including her friends. Planning things that involve her friends is romantic because you’re letting her know you accept all aspects of her life. And it will give you a chance to bond with the people closest to her as well.
SHARING YOUR FEELINGS
There’s nothing more romantic than letting a girl know how you feel. Men have been taught to suppress their emotions and as a result, they tend to have difficulty saying how they feel out loud. But practice in the mirror. Or write your thoughts out on paper. Relaying your feelings to your loved one will be a breath of fresh air. Women want to know how you feel about them. Don’t assume we already know.
TEXTING HER THROUGHOUT THE DAY
Sending a woman texts during the day shows her that you’re thinking about her. If she likes you, chances are you’re crossing her mind too. And it’s nice to know that the feeling’s mutual. Something as simple as a “Hey, I’m thinking about you — hope you’re okay” will go a long way.
ASKING ABOUT HER PAST
It’s hard for women to open up about their past. A lot of women worry that the man they’re interested in will run a mile when they start talking about the difficult times they’ve been through. When you ask, you’re creating a safe space for her to open up. And for someone who wants to feel cared for, it will mean the world to her.
REMEMBERING THE LITTLE THINGS
That includes the meeting your partner has at work next week and knowing that her favourite show comes on Netflix every Thursday. Remembering when they’re happening and asking about them afterwards is a great way to show that you listen and remember what she said. She’ll find it incredibly romantic that you didn’t forget.
These can be as little as a pastry from that bakery she loves, leaving a loving message on the bathroom mirror, or picking a flower for her on your way home from work. Surprises don’t have to be big and grand to be considered romantic. Choose something that’s a bit more realistic for you to do sporadically.
VALIDATING HER FEELINGS
You don’t necessarily have to agree with what created her feelings, but validating them will remind her how much you care. So if she comes home and tells you how stressful her day was, let her know that it does indeed sound like it was very stressful. And maybe offer to run her a candlelit bath. Us women seem to like that — I’m not really sure why!
LETTING HER HAVE THE LAST SLICE OF PIZZA
What’s more romantic than letting a woman have the last slice of pizza? Absolutely nothing. She knows you want it, but going without that last cheesy piece for the sake of her happiness is the ultimate form of romance.