Top 10 Tips On Making Long Distance Relationships Work

Many people believe that long-distance relationships are never going to work out. Your family may discourage it, and some of your best friends may advise you not to take it too seriously, just in case you end up getting your heart broken.

Nobody says it is going to be easy – the extra distance alone will make many things unachievable. Things could get complicated, and you’re bound to get sad and lonely at times. But I promise it’s not all bad!

The extra distance between you also makes the simplest things the sweetest – being able to hold the other person’s hand, eating together at the same table, feeling each other’s touch, taking a walk together, smelling each other’s hair etc. These seemingly small things we often take for granted can suddenly mean so much more in a long-distance relationship.

In this age of technology, maintaining a long-distance relationship is easier than ever before. So don’t let people’s nasty comments deter you from joining the long-distance relationship club. In fact, negative comments provide you with even more of a reason to prove them wrong. Because yes, long-distance relationships can be successful! But, armed with these top long-distance relationship tips, you’ll be acing the whole long-distance relationship malarkey in no time. Read on to find out more …

Young girl in a long-distance relationship keeping in contact with her beau

01. FACETIME IS YOUR FRIEND

There’s only so much texting and messaging you can do before you start wanting to hear their voice and see their face. To only communicate via text message may not only become mundane but it can also be unhealthy. It’s easy for a message to be misinterpreted, which may upset your other half, and you don’t want that. And, hey, you love this person, right? Dedicating time to speak to them via video call, whether that’s by FaceTime or Skype, should be a barrel of laughs for both of you.

Young couple getting the keys to their new home

02. HAVE AN END DATE IN SIGHT

This is possibly my favourite tip on this list of long-distance relationship tips. And one that will be sure to keep you going. Set yourselves an end date for when your long-distance relationship is going to end. For example, you might currently be studying at university but decide to move closer to your partner once you’ve graduated. Or you might decide to give it a few years and then move in together. The truth is, no couple can be in a long-distance relationship for forever. Even if you don’t decide to take the typical trajectory of marriage, buying a house, and having kids, we all need to settle down in one way or another.

Knowing when your ‘end date’ is will be mutually beneficial for both parties. Realising that this won’t be forever will ease the pain of long-distance and actually make you appreciate your own space and company. ‘Cause let’s face it, you’re not going to have this kind of independence forever. So decide when your end date is, and draw up a plan. It’s important that you’re both on the same page and have the same goals.

Young guy surprising his girlfriend with flowers

03. SURPRISE EACH OTHER WITH LOVE LETTERS, GIFTS OR TRIPS

I understand that many people may think that giving gifts is just materialistic. And, believe me, I get that. But, that being said, I still think it’s lovely to surprise someone now and again. Everyone loves to receive a little token of appreciation, don’t they? It doesn’t have to cost much either. Yes, you could send each other gifts but the little things go a long way too. Go old school by writing and sending hand-written love letters or postcards, surprise them with a bunch of their favourite flowers, or make a Spotify playlist for them and send them the link. It doesn’t have to be a massive gesture. Just something to keep the spark alive.

But, for me, the best surprise would be surprising them by showing up on their doorstep. You may not be able to afford the train tickets or airfare right now, but save up and surprise them. After all, the best gift you can really give someone is your time.

The wing of a plane in the sky

04. PLAN WHEN YOU CAN VISIT EACH OTHER IN ADVANCE

Visits are the highlight of every long-distance relationship. There’s no denying that. Without trying to make your relationship seem like some formal business exchange, it’s nice to map out exactly when and where you can see each other. Research the cheapest and easiest way to visit each other. For example, if you’re dating someone who’s just a couple of hours away the cheapest and easiest way to get to them may be by rail or road. But if you’re dating someone further afield then a plane trip could be the way to go.

One of the best long-distance relationships tips is to get into a routine of scheduling visits at regular intervals. Even if it is several months away, knowing when you’ll next see each other and having a date to count down to is something that will help massively.

Group of people celebrating

05. LIVE YOUR OWN LIVES

As much as I’m sure you’ll hate to hear it, living your own lives is so important. You may be alone but you’re not lonely unless you choose to be. Whilst your partner may feel like your whole world and more, letting your world revolve around one person is dangerous. This is why many long-distance relationships fail, especially if one person in the relationship needs the other way more than the other.

Take this time apart to do more by yourself, with your friends and with your family. Get a new hobby. Go to the gym. Lounge on the sofa in your pj’s and watch Netflix. Or plan a weekend away with the girls. Whatever you enjoy doing, just relish your independence while you still can.

Young woman playing games on her phone

06. DO THINGS TOGETHER EVEN THOUGH YOU’RE APART

Whilst it is important to have your own hobbies and your own lives, one of the best long-distance relationship tips is to do things together, even when you’re apart. You could maybe read the same book or watch the same film or TV series on Netflix at the same time, even though you’re in different places. This will help you share experiences and give you new things to talk about. You can even play a video game together even when you’re apart. Technology is amazing these days, so make the most of it!

Couple messing around in a field

07. HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY

Honesty is, of course, important in any relationship. But it is especially important in long-distance relationships because you’re not going to know what the other person is up to 100% of the time. Lying isn’t going to get you anywhere so be honest about how you are feeling. If you’re feeling jealous, tell them. If you’re feeling insecure, tell them. It’s not rocket science. The truth will come out in the end, as they say. So be upfront about it. Besides, feeling a little jealous now and again is not unusual in any relationship. And especially not in a long-distance relationship. Jealousy is healthy to a certain extent as it means you really care about that person.

Woman writing in a journal

08. KNOW EACH OTHER’S SCHEDULES LIKE THE BACK OF YOUR HAND

No matter whether your partner is working full time, studying full time, or something completely different, knowing each other’s schedules like the back of your hand is extremely important. By doing so, you can avoid calling or texting them at times where you may find yourself waiting around and wasting your time when you’re not going to get a reply anytime soon. This will also help as you can schedule regular calls that work well around both of your schedules.

Happy couple laughing together

09. PROPERLY ENJOY YOUR TIME IN PERSON TOGETHER

When you only have a couple of days together each month or – god forbid it – a couple of days together each year, it feels like there is a lot of pressure to make every in-person second count. However, try not to get too stressed out about it. Instead, just enjoy each other’s company for what it is. You may not get to do stuff you wanted to do but hey, that’s life.

If you want to spend all weekend doing lots of fun-filled activities, that’s cool. But if you want to spend all weekend ordering takeaways and watching Netflix in bed, that’s equally cool. Determine what it is that best feels like quality time spent together and do more of that. Just remember that time you enjoy wasting together is not wasted time. In fact, it’ll probably help the two of you connect even more.

Lonely young guy on the beach

10. REMEMBER THAT MOST PEOPLE IN LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS WILL STRUGGLE AT SOME POINT

We’re all human. Sometimes long-distance relationships just don’t work out. And sometimes you’ll just have to acknowledge that despite their benefits, long-distance relationships can be a bit crap. But that’s okay. You don’t have to pretend that you’ve got it all figured out. Because – spoiler alert – most of us don’t. Just remember that this isn’t going to be forever. And as long as you’ve got an end date within the next ten years, you’ll be alright. I promise.

Top 10 Tips On Making Long Distance Relationships Work

Are you currently in a long-distance relationship?
If so, let me know how you’re finding it in the comments below!

Louise x

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27 Comments

  1. April 28, 2020 / 7:28 am

    I tink communication and trust is the biggest for a long distance relationship to thrive. and these are some amazing activities to make it fun at the same timee.

    • Louise
      Author
      May 6, 2020 / 3:56 pm

      It really is. Long-distance relationships most definitely wouldn’t survive without trust.

  2. April 28, 2020 / 1:13 pm

    With this lockdown happening, most of us are all in some semblance of a long distance relationship, so these tips could not be more timely. I agree with using facetime, sending each other thoughtful gifts, and communicating! Relationships after all is built on honest, open and fun communication and man that can make or break any relationship.

    • Louise
      Author
      May 6, 2020 / 3:56 pm

      I totally agree. A lot of people I know are isolating without their partners :'(

  3. April 28, 2020 / 4:46 pm

    Great tips! I think they really work. I had a long distance relationship with my husband for 6 years before getting married! We only saw each other once or twice per year. The longest we’ve been apart has been 7 months!

    • Louise
      Author
      May 6, 2020 / 3:57 pm

      It’s so good to hear a real-life success story. Only being able to see each other twice a year must have been super hard for you both.

  4. April 28, 2020 / 8:11 pm

    I was in a long term relationship before I married my husband and that was in the time of emails, couples now have so many more ways to stay in contact via chatting portals and video calls.

    • Louise
      Author
      May 6, 2020 / 3:58 pm

      They do. In reality, it should make long-distance relationships much easier these days 🙂

  5. Joy
    April 29, 2020 / 3:33 am

    These are great tips that I’m sure people who are in long-distance relationships will find useful. This was a great post to read. Thanks for sharing!

  6. Windy
    April 29, 2020 / 11:56 am

    Great tips for couples that do long distance dating especially during the nation wide stay at home order where most couples are away from each other.

  7. May 1, 2020 / 12:44 pm

    I’ve done the long distance thing, it didn’t work (the relationship, we weren’t a good match) but I did a few of these things and they did really help. I sent him love letters and small gifts a lot and I think things like that are definitely the way to get through it

  8. May 1, 2020 / 5:39 pm

    Aww this is so heartwarming! Been struggling lately especially since coronavirus… haven’t been able to see the people that I normally do! Thank you for these tips tho x

    • Louise
      Author
      May 6, 2020 / 3:59 pm

      I’m sorry to hear you’ve been struggling. My emails are always open if you fancy a chat 🙂

  9. May 8, 2020 / 1:16 am

    These are excellent tips for long distance relationships. Sometimes though you both have to be willing for it to work and take the steps to make it last.

  10. dris
    May 8, 2020 / 5:21 am

    thanks for sharing must be so tough!

  11. pd
    May 8, 2020 / 6:42 am

    A long distance relationship over a long time is very tough. These are great tips!!!

  12. Sedija Lejiete
    May 8, 2020 / 6:43 am

    As I experienced a long distance relationship for years, I definitely agree that what you mentioned worked and helped to go through that type of a relationship more strongly and positive. 💛

  13. May 8, 2020 / 7:00 am

    I was once in a long distance relationship, and it didn’t work for me. I’ve been single for 9 years now, and if I’d ever get into a relationship, I’d like to be with that someone around physically. Also tried having someone that I liked who were faraway and eventually they found relationships where they were at. So kudos to those who make it work!

  14. Yana
    May 8, 2020 / 7:03 am

    These are great tips for long distance relationships. I have never been in one but these seem perfect.

  15. May 8, 2020 / 7:17 am

    Hmmm, I really do not know how to feel about this as my all long distance, and some have not been that far away, never worked out. In most of them all the tips you write about have been implemeted, but the subjects in those relationships have drifted from each other and found out they do not work so well anymore.

  16. May 8, 2020 / 1:35 pm

    I’ve never been in a long-distance relationship, I’ve always thought it doesn’t work! But I agree with you, you can make everything work if you’re willing to give it a go! Great tips.

  17. May 8, 2020 / 2:00 pm

    These are all great tips! I had a friend who was in a long-distance relationship and watching it, I’m not sure if I could do it. These tips would definitely make it work though!

  18. May 9, 2020 / 3:21 am

    I think some of these are transferrable to long-distance friendships as well. It takes a lot to make any type of long-distance relationship work, and I find that a lack of communication is the biggest killer for any type of long-distance relationship.

  19. May 9, 2020 / 7:09 pm

    it depends on the individuals in the relationship but personally I do not prefer long-distance relationship. it is significant to communicate and trust ones partner whatever the circumstances are.

  20. May 11, 2020 / 6:13 am

    Long distance relationship don’t work for me.
    I always feel like the other person might be cheating.
    But these are great tips.

  21. May 11, 2020 / 12:09 pm

    Hi Louise,
    oh this is such a great post I had to pin it!
    I was in a LDR for 1,5 years until we moved together half a year ago. Now we had to separate because of the Corona-Virus and I had to fly back to my home country which is 12.000 kilometers away and literally on the other side of the world. Long distance can be so tough, especially in these last months, but I think everyone who survives this, will go out so much stronger out of it.

    Have a great day,

    Tiziana
    http://www.tizianaolbrich.de

  22. Kristine Nicole Alessandra
    May 22, 2020 / 11:24 am

    Being in a LDR entails a lot of trust between couples. The cliche, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder” can sometimes make a turnaround and would be “Absence makes the heart forget.” My sons have not seen their girlfriends since we were put on quarantine. Its been 68 days! But I am glad when I see them talking with their girlfriends using social media apps.

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